(redpilly thoughts on dating)
I was reading Ozy’s latest post and they mention that a great way for women to improve their dating prospects is to ask guys out. My first reaction to this was “nonono” because there’s this failure mode I see in a lot of my non-rationalist (i.e. “cool”) acquaintances that goes something like this.
- girl asks guy out/pursues him because Hey It’s the Current Year
- guy seems (to me, an outside observer) to not show any strong signals of interest
- they hook up
- after a few times guy loses interest and stops returning texts
- girl is sad
And this can all be avoided by waiting for guys to ask you out, making them take you out to dinner and pay, basically just insisting on some credible signals of interest in a relationship with you.
Then I realized everyone who reads Ozy’s blog is a nerd, and the women who read it are probably disproportionately poly or high-sociosexuality, so it is actually good advice for people who read it. (When you’re dealing with nerdy guys, “too scared to ask you out” is way more likely than “player who considers you below his league but would sleep with you if the opportunity arose.”)
I still kinda object to the advice when given to a wider audience though.