So I have this high school friend who got SJ when she went to college. I try not to talk to her about my experiences as a Woman in STEM/Woman in Finance because whatever I’m saying doesn’t really get listened to so much as coopted into a narrative of “math geeks are all just misogynist dudebros” or whatever.
And I just remembered this time in high school when I idly mentioned that I wanted to learn computer programming and she got this horrified look on her face and was like “but that’s what people like Johnny do!”
(Johnny was a weird guy in our grade who had no friends or social skills to speak of and liked Star Wars beyond what was socially acceptable.)
plus ça change, man