Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. RosenbergMy rating: 5 of 5 stars
I honestly loved this book. I think I might have gained 10 emotional IQ points just from reading it–this week whenever I interact with people I keep thinking about what they must be feeling and what need they were trying to express when they said that thing. (I think I still have a way to go before actually putting all of this into practice.) I’m also finding it quite helpful in thinking about myself, my self-image, my decisions and mistakes, etc.
I’d recommend it if you’re interested in relating more authentically to people, resolving disagreements, making people feel loved and valued, practicing compassion for others and yourself … basically normal human things tbh.
I’m still unsure about some stuff. There were a lot of really impressive stories about NVC healing decades-old rifts, preventing murders, etc. Maybe they’re all true, but I’m pretty sure it isn’t literally a superpower and I would feel better if there were some stories about “one time I tried to use NVC to stop this gang war, and it totally failed, and they kept murdering people, and we had to just put them in jail or something.”
I’m also confused about people having needs that conflict with each other. He kind of casually implies that everyone’s needs can always be satisfied and that seems fake. Maybe I missed him justifying this more.
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