it’s kind of weird how differently people react to you saying that you broke up with someone vs. you saying that you quit your job when from the inside they feel … really similar?
with the job people will say “yay! congrats! good for you! so exciting :D” even if they know your job was amazing and a really good fit for you
with the breakup people will say “oh no I’m so sorry :( :( are you okay?” even if they know the relationship was really not good for you and needed to end like yesterday
anyway, I have done both of these things in the past few weeks and experienced approximately the same mix of emotions in both situations, and shoutout to the one guy who messaged me after I quit my job to ask if I was okay
(to be clear also thanks to everyone who has sent me congratulations or excited messages! those were great and made me very happy. it’s just that the “are you okay” was also helpful and much rarer)
(I got zero unsolicited congratulations after the breakup and kind of had to fish for them. “aren’t you proud of me? isn’t it exciting that I actually did it?”)